Wednesday, October 12, 2011


I share with you the sermon during a sunset Mass I attended recently.

There was an old lady who met a pastor and asks him to do when her time will come.

“Father, when I die I don’t want a rosary or a crucifix placed on my folded palm but put a spoon instead”.

She told the pastor that they were a very poor family and on every weekend her grandmother will cook a very special and tasty food for her grandchildren. That was the only day that they were able to eat a proper food prepared by their grandmother.

After their special food their grandmother will prepare a dessert for them.

“Grandchildren, take a spoon and wait for the dessert that I am going to prepare it for you”.

Every weekend the grandchildren were treated with special dessert and they waited their grandmother with a spoon in hand. They were wondering what was the special dessert that their grandma preparing for them that day.

When she died the Pastor make sure that the wishes the old woman wanted was followed by her family. Everyone was wondering and surprised that a silver spoon was placed between the palm of the old lady instead of a rosary or crucifix.

Let’s reflect and wonder the meaning of the action of the old lady wanting a spoon between her palms after she died.

Tuesday, October 11, 2011


“Uncle, Mummy getting serious”. My nephew called me from the hospital on my mobile phone as I was watching a movie in a cinema in town.

“I will be there”. I told him and told my friend that there was an emergency at the hospital and was it alright to leave. I left the cinema half through the movie.

My sister in-law was seriously ill for the past months and she was in and out of hospital and only survive with oxygen twenty four hours for the past two weeks even at home. Almost every day I tried to visit her and when something serious happen, I was the first to be called by my brother for help.

She was a strong willed mother to her six children, one waiting for her convocation to get her degree and another in his second year in a local university. The other four boys needed extra attention as they are still young and all are special children.

Even she was sick but yet she visited my old aged mother as to show my mother that she was healthy. I must say that she was the only one that could get my mother to take her medicine. My mother didn’t performed her last respect to her telling us that she might go with her if she forced herself to see her dead body.

I hugged my nephew and niece tightly during the last respect at the Church where their mother was laid for friends and families for their respect and I did told them to be strong for the sake of their siblings. Help their father to look after their needs and the life after the demised of their beloved mother.

She had suffered some much of her sickness and I know that it is best for her with the lord and pray that her children will be able to succeed and proud to their mother of her love to her children until her last breath. May her soul rest in peace.

Thursday, September 22, 2011


I had posted an article regarding a lady colleague who I thought was ‘CONFUSE’ in some extend that she will sometimes shouted without regards to her colleague. Lately I teamed up with a friend to get back to her with what her own words she uttered.

She once spoke about a new system in collecting data and she mentioned that sometimes she collect the data at home through her laptop leisurely on her bed. We created a phrase that sounded like this in Malay; Dia dapat barang baru, buat kerja atas katil sambil sikat itu lumun. (Lumun in Kadazan is a nest We will repeat those words always and it seems that she soften a bit in her mood.

** Another friend that we used to tease with the ‘LUMUN’ inadvertently admitted that they never in a nude in front of their husband except in the dark. I wasn’t surprise as it was the second person that admitted the same thing.


Here is the continuation of the story I wrote titled “You would Do Anything for your loved one”, where it ended with the young lady was asked to be the surrogate for a child to a childless couple.

As there was no other alternative to help her father, she has to accept the offer to be a surrogate mother for. She made an agreement through a middleman and signs an agreement whereby when she delivered, the baby will be taken immediately and she will not see it again as she does not even know the identity of the childless couple.

She was given a place to stay by the family of the childless couple until she deliver the baby. She has to lie to her father and step-mother that a friend has a job for her in China and the offer is hard to reject as the salary is high. As her stomach became bigger she became confuse of her feeling toward the unborn child and she seldom talk to the child in her womb. By the time she was nine month pregnant, she was really attached to the unborn child and decided to run away from the house. She did not know where to go after leaving the house and decided to go to her grandmother for her help.

The grandmother was surprised to see her granddaughter pregnant and after persuasion, she relented to her and let her stay with her after reasoning her action she took.

Unaware of the step taken by the ‘middleman’ to find her she was found at her grandmother’s house in labour and subsequently sent to the hospital with the ‘middleman’ securing her until her delivery. She delivered a healthy baby boy and was breastfeed by her against the agreement made but the baby was taken away when she was asleep. She was frantically looking for her baby when she woke up and run away from the maternity hospital to look for her but all was lost as all her contact with the ‘middleman’ was disconnected.

It was three years later that her life was back to normal but every time she saw a small boy, she remembers the baby she delivered. Did she meet a boy that she thought was her baby?

To be continued .....

Tuesday, July 26, 2011


A very rich man was sad that the local youth especially those living in the remote villages were unable to get a job although they have the same qualification as the others. Most of the time they applied for any vacancy in the public sector especially in the government department but they always received unfavourable results. I hope the government department are not biased to any particular group of people and only cater for a particular group.

These youth applied to the private sector but you must know that the Chinese will only recruit workers either they are good in Mandarin and can speak English very well. So the youth from the remote villagers have no way to go and unable to lift the standard of living of them and their family.

One day this very rich guy opens up an office and tried to help some of the youth by giving them job and see how far they can do on the task given to them. They not only perform extremely well in standard but some of them further their studies with the help from the company owner until they succeeded in their studies.

If all the well to do people in our society do their bit in helping the poor or the youth from the remote villages to recruit them and gives them job and not depending too much from the government we will eradicate poverty amongst the society of our nation. This is really true as it happen and shared by people who knew the rich man.

Friday, July 22, 2011


Her mother passed away when he was a small girl and the only remembrance she had with her mother was a black and white picture of her which was the only one available. All her mother’s photos perished after the family house was gutted by fire. The only photo of her mother was given to her by her grandmother.

Her father remarried and they have two daughters, the oldest of the two step- sisters is one of a spoilt lady who always the favourite of their mother. How wrong was she all the time but she will not get scolded or apprehended and always shielded by her mother whenever her oldest sister scolded her. The youngest seem to be getting on well with her oldest step-sister.

They were the perfect family, except for the ever spoil step-sister until their father fell down one day and was rushed to the hospital. He was diagnosed with having liver problem and needed transplant urgently. All the children were tested for possible donor to their father. The spoilt daughter was the perfect match to donate part of her liver but it did not materialise due her being afraid as her reason. The mother was not too eager and forceful to make her spoil daughter to change her mind to donate her liver.

With the father being sick and without anyone of the children working and the extravagance of the spoilt daughter, the oldest daughter tried to look for money for the possible surgery for transplant. She successfully found a donor but without money to pay for the surgery and to pay for the donor it will not happen.

During one of her visit to the hospital a middle aged woman was observing her and more or less knew that she needed money. She decided that it is the right time to talk to her and offered her of any help. She didn’t pressure her anything at that time but if she needed help she could think about it and called her later. She was asked to be a surrogate mother of a childless couple.

Did she as a virgin and a young lady still in college took the offer? Wait for the next post....

Wednesday, July 20, 2011


If you would like to know what I do during my free time, I really like to read and watch serial drama but I read a lot.

Most of the time I am trying to find good free stories and it happened that I found one which is quite interesting. When I look for stories I would look for stories that have a lot of chapter and each chapter has a big file.

I’ve been reading this stories which have seventy chapters and by the look of it, the story is not yet completed and I think few chapter would be coming up. Usually when I read a story I will not read its synopsis of each chapter but decide to read on one of the chapter and read that another story was written related to the story but the main character portrayed was with the other individuals mention in the stories. Actually there were four different stories but all are related to the other stories and if you haven’t read the other stories then you will be lost of what the stories is all about.

Presently I am reading three of the stories and every now and then I will move to the other stories randomly depending on how the stories go. The stories main character as from the stories I read was concentrated on four characters that are the Governor (Daniel Sr) his son Josh, Jacob who was shot but later diagnose with having cancer and Eric who shot Jacob but given pardon by the governor and he later donated his kidney to Jacob. I haven’t started reading the other stories as I cannot have time for everything as I have to work.

At the same time I am watching serial drama (6 Disks) but I was contemplating of returning it back and get another but decided to watch it last Sunday. I was trying to absorb myself to the story line before and still I don’t like it very much but I don’t know what happen as when watching another chapter found it interesting. I decided to watch it again and probably will not return it. (I did posted here about the agreement I made with the shop selling the Disk)

I will give reviews of the drama I am watching now in my next posting.

Thursday, July 14, 2011


For some I go too fast, for others I am too slow, to most people I am an obsession, but relying on me is a well practical lesson.

What am I?

Monday, July 11, 2011


Early morning of Saturday as usual I wake up and decided to have my breakfast at ‘WAN WAN RESTAURANT’ with sea food noodle, fish slice plus fish stomach. After I bought a newspaper and drove to the restaurant about three KM from Donggongon town but was stuck in a traffic jam. I saw there was a road block before the Pineapple roundabout less than a KM from the town centre by the traffic police.

I was wondering why there was a road block and remembered that there was a news report regarding a woman who jumps to her death at the new shopping complex (Donggongon town) after some misunderstanding with her friend. I thought there was some lead to the investigation and the police was blocking the road for that case. She was the second victim who jump from the complex after it was open to the public.

After passing the first road block, there was another road block near the Hongkod Koisaan building but at the other side of the road leading to Donggongon town. I saw there was many police personnel at the KDCA building which I think were their operation centre.

I was seated at the restaurant and after ordering my breakfast; I opened the newspaper and read about the advised by the police to the public not to get involved in the BERSIH RALLY 2.0. That was why the entire road blocks by the police force were enforced.

There were some who commented on the Facebook that they felt safe with all the road block which will deter bad people to do bad things and at least control the flow of illegal immigrant whereabouts.

It was reported in the newspaper that there was no illegal assembly that was held in Sabah according to the Sabah commissioner of police. In the national capital at least more than a thousand were roped in the illegal BERSIH rally.

Thursday, July 07, 2011


Yesterday my cousin text me that our salted Ikan Terubuk fish which we ordered arrived from Kuching and ask me to get it. We asked a line dance friend who went to visit her daughter to look for the popular salted fish from Sarawak. I was introduced to this dried fish from a friend from Sarawak. I wrote an article about this salted fish in this blog. If you want to read it just google ‘ikan Terubuk’ and look for the title ‘Precious butiza-ikan Terubuk’ for faster search.

What I want to share with you guys is about what a friend told me about his visit to a factory dealing with the preparation of the salted fish. I was surprise with this friend not taking a piece of the salted fish served to us. He explained to us of what he saw during his visit to the factory.

According to this friend he saw the raw fish was put inside a big jar for processing or salted for certain duration of time and noticed that it was not properly covered. There he saw dead rats inside the jar which was trapped inside the half full jar and maggots crawling on the fish and dead rats. He cannot describe the smell and the cleanliness of the place. There and then that he decided not to eat salted fish ever.

So people out there if you are one that is crazy about salted fish, make sure you do not visit any salted fish factory in the future. Proceed eating salted fish but make sure to cook it well.

Wednesday, July 06, 2011

RIDDLE 2 & 3

A man was driving a black truck. He didn’t have his lights on and a lady was crossing the street.

How was he able to see the Lady?

The man invented it doesn’t want it. The man who bought it doesn’t need it. The man who needs it doesn’t know it.

What is it?

Tuesday, July 05, 2011


A neighbour passed away few days ago at around 6.00 o’ clock in the morning but only the sound of beaten gong was heard around 9.00 o’clock. That was a normal as a time to inform relatives to help with the family who just lost a dear family member would take time. In a Kadazan custom especially in Penampang, it is a must to beat the gong if someone passed away.

The ritual of beating the gong if someone passed away amongst the Kadazan Penampang is a must when someone passed away. It is taboo and no no to beat the ‘DUNSAI’ as you like. It is an eerie sound when you heard it whenever the gong is beaten to the sound of ‘DUNSAI'.

It was the first morning of the death of the person and before the sun rises and still dark say around 5.00 am, the ‘Dunsai’ or gong must be beaten. I was awakened by the unfamiliar sound of the gong beaten as some of the sound mixed with the sound of a normal gong beating as the ‘Sumazau’ beaten during a happy occasion. I realised that the gong beaters were not familiar with the ‘Dunsai’ beat, of which you have no time to learn the beating. The beating of the ‘Dunsai’ is not a hard to learn but depended on the individual to follow the tempo and one has the ability and passion to try it. If you can beat the normal beating of the gong then you have no problem beating of the ‘Dunsai’ sound. Dunsai cannot be learn by beating any time you like but learned it on the actual time when the deceased inside the coffin. It is more worst if the number of gong beaters is less than six persons and whoever is available have to beat it.

With the passing of time and the conversion to Christianity by the Kadazan people this ritual will no longer be practiced in time to come much earlier. People will not wake up early in the morning just to beat the gong as some of us are getting ready for work and to manage the children for the school.

The reason of why the beating of the ‘Dunsai’ in the Penampang district is not clear as other Kadazan people in other district does not practice it. What I believed and conclude about it is their way to inform the people nearby of the death of someone during the time of which no communication was available to inform relatives and friends about the death.

As there are available caretaker for the dead, I believed when we are short of people to help there is always the caretaker to help whatever we need them to take care. They can do anything even to cry for the deceased.

Monday, July 04, 2011


Let's say I have two coins in my hand. You add two coins together and it total out to fifty five cents. But one of the two coins isn't a nickle. So what are my two coins?

Thursday, June 30, 2011


I was curious of what the main menu of today’s newspaper portrays when I bought it this morning. It has to wait as I read through the front page of the newspaper of where ex minister break his fast from food with bread and honey. He was fasting for the past week or so to dispute the government to reinstate his pension and the biased towards his race for employment, scholarship and many other issues.

The article quoted a public figure commenting a very popular song entitled Tanak Kampung (Village Boy) penned and sung by Jimmy Palikat. He commented that the wordings are a bit worrying since the ‘individual’ referred to in the song is portrayed as a defeatists and has resigned to the fact that he was poor.

I defer to the views made as it is only a song and any wording or lyrics penned was just a way to attract the attention of listeners to the song. If we listen and understand the wording carefully we will find the ‘individual’ mentioned in the song does not want his girlfriend to marry him and suffer later with his village life.

Though his view regarding the song without motivational elements it doesn’t reflect the character of its people or a step backward for the promotion of the local music industry especially Kadazandusun songs. The singer should be commended as he become popular through his entertaining songs through hard work compared to reality singers who instantly become popular after the reality show ended.

Disregard all negative comments for what is most important thing to survive in this industry (local music) is to look for the type of music gentre most like by the peolple. It is alright to maintain your style of music or lyrics as long as the majority of the people appreciate your songs.

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

WEDDING RECEPTION – My Thought to share

Almost every weekend the community halls in Penampang district are booked six months in advance for a wedding reception. The most popular community hall is the KDCA hall and Tun Fuad community centre and followed by the Cultural centre hall. If they cannot book it on weekends then they will try to get their reception on Friday evening. That is how popular community hall in Penampang for wedding reception.

After attending so many wedding receptions at these venues, I would like to share of what I’ve seen or experience when attending these reception. It’s more of the characters of the guests, how the reception was organised and whatever was captured by my eyes.

Gone are the time of waiting your guests to leave your house (if reception held at the house) as when the time of the reception ended, let say 5.00 pm you can leave the reception hall as the guests knew the time was up. It is up to the host of the reception to proceed with the partying with family members and close relatives at their house.

If you had attended any wedding functions at these places, you will know the programmes by heart by now as there will be entrance of the married couple, cutting of the cake, tossing and short speech by the host and a song by the married couple. (Most Sabahan can sing during wedding reception. Worst after consuming local brew lol).


Have you thought of bringing your own food to a wedding reception? You won’t believe it but it does happen and I myself had the opportunity to share with them the food but it happen in another function not related to a wedding reception. I really respected this group of friends and people who know them in no way surprised of their way of bringing own food. They will bring healthy traditional food put in a containers put inside an oversize handbags. No wonder they look younger as they are selective of the food they’re eating.

It was mid-way of the reception when a group of ladies entered the hall dressed in a cowboy outfit and they really looked like what we saw on the film but smaller version (Asian size It reminds me of my company’s Award night a fortnight ago which everybody donning F1 attire or colours. It may be good to ask your family members of the married couple to don cowboy outfit for any intending couple for their coming wedding reception.


Last weekend I attended a wedding reception and saw two European amongst the crowd and they seem lost especially the woman. I saw the woman not really comfortable because of the loud music and foreign songs to her. The young teenage boy of below twenty seems enjoying himself with free flowing of beer in his grips and in no time doing the Sumazau dance with his modified dance. He really enjoying himself but I was to understand that he fall inside a drain afterwards. If that was true than he really enjoyed himself or rather experienced culture shock.


Ever noticed individuals wearing short trouser and wearing slippers to a wedding reception and usually these types of people will sit near the bar. I don’t know whether this people were invited to the reception but what I gather is that they are not invited. Those are the group of people without principle and shame. They are disgraceful to the society and not respectful to the host and their family. The disadvantages of hosting your reception in an open public hall are that you cannot control people from coming in especially from people who disgrace themselves.

NO .. NO

Make sure your food enough for your invited guests and seldom as I experienced that the food was not enough to the guests. It is alright that your alcoholic drink is not enough rather than your food.

Thursday, June 23, 2011


I was selected to attend my company’s award night at the national capital last weekend with a theme Formula 1 ‘Race to the top’ and the attire of the night was F1 team Attire or F1 team colours. To be on the safe side, I decided only to wear white shirt. I was overwhelmed by the response of the attire worn as almost everyone was wearing F1 team attire and colours. There were few states groups donning the same attire. Unfortunately our group from Sabah was not well organised and worst off as we were scattered all over the hall.

It was indeed like I was at the Formula 1 racing circuit as 5 replicas of the F1 cars was displayed at the entrance of the hall. The music, the backdrop and everything else was about formula 1 and indeed it open my eyes to attend the formula 1 race at the Sepang international circuit one day.

It was indeed a well done job by the organising committee who look after the transportation and accommodation. We were like a VVIP when we step out of the plane and were ushered to the hotel before sending us to the ‘hall of fame’ where all the events were held. It was the same when the event was completed.


My flight to the national capital was delayed for 3 hours but the worst thing was that we were called for boarding after an hour wait at the terminal. We were on board the plane for 2 hours to wait for the connecting passengers from China. Imagine how uncomfortable it was without the air conditioner on full blast. It was really hot inside and the worst was that I was seated near the end of the plane where the toilet was situated. I think we were the coolest passengers because nobody complains vocally but remain seated just complaining to your friends and telling jokes that we were in a low budget aeroplane company. Actually we were not at the terminal 2 of the Kota Kinabalu international airport.

It was merely two hours inside that humid plane and I was assessing the situation and a thought came up about the feeling and condition of the people who had experienced a situation of where the plane was hijacked.

It was at 3.30pm that the plane moved and it was a relieved as any more delay will make us missed or late for the event. The captain voice came up again for another announcement informing passengers about another delay;

Captain : Ladies and Gentlemen, Boys and girls, Due to the heavy traffic we are in the sequence 5 for the take off and it will take from 5 minutes to 15 minutes. Please bear with us and we are sorry for the inconvenience.

Thank you.

It was almost 8.00pm that we reached the event being held and we didn’t missed anything but felt tired due to the unforeseen circumstances.

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

DO YOU KNOW......?

1. People who ride on roller coasters have a higher chance of having a blood clot in the brain.

2. Chewing gum while peeling onions will keep you from crying.

3. Wearing headphones for just an hour will increase the bacteria in your ear by 700 times.

4. Right handed people live, on average, nine years longer than left-handed people.

5. We exercise at least 30 muscles when we smile.

6. The sound you hear when you crack your knuckles is actually the sound of nitrogen gas bubbles bursting.

Credit : A B

Wednesday, June 15, 2011


I was busily doing my work when I noticed a staff with our company’s contractor (Vendor) entered our office. Once in a while our vendor’s staff met us for some matters concerning of the updating their profile and what have you. I think today’s visit was not about work.

As usual we greeted and she handed me a Brocade fan (Kipas Tangan) and I thought that she went for a holiday and gave us souvenir after she‘s back from her holiday.

Vendor staff: Open it and make sure you come.

Me: Wah it is nice and good during hot weather. (After opening, fan myself with it)

Vendor staff: Would you mind reading what’s written on the fan please!

I laugh when I was aware that it was really a wedding invitation. If she hasn’t asked me to open and read it, I would not know that it was a wedding invitation. It was a very unique way to invite your friends using Brocade fan. The only disadvantage of using it though was us is not aware of it if we are not informed verbally. It is indeed my first invitation using Brocade Fan.

Wednesday, May 25, 2011


I was listening to the radio and the topic the Radio DJ asked listeners was to give their questions in regards to the finalists of the Unduk Ngadau (Harvest Festival). It is about their IQ or knowledge about the KadazanDusun custom and cultures. There were some listeners giving a very good question but mostly gave humorous question. That is how important the Unduk Ngadau is to the KadazanDusun due to the fact that almost all the villages celebrate the month long celebration after the end of the harvesting time.

Unduk Ngadau is the process of selecting a beautiful girl in remembrance of Huminodun which pertains to sacrifice of the beautiful girl, the only begotten daughter.

According to the Kadazandusun genesis story, Huminodun was sacrificed as an offering to the great earth so that the people will have seeds for planting and there will food for the KadazanDusun people.

What question should I ask to the Unduk ngadau contestants if you are one of the judges? That was the question posed by the DJ to the listeners. There were many questions suggested but the most significant question should be the ability of the contestants to master of their mother tongue that is any of the KadazanDusun dialect wherever district they come from. It is a worrying to the KadazanDusun people that the mother tongue eroding significantly at a fast pace and in a very short time the KadazanDusun will lost its identity.

Before we lost it we should start speaking our language to our children so that our identity, custom and cultures are protected alongside with the progress of our people in this multi racial society of this country, Malaysia.

Select Unduk Ngadau Queen who can speak KadazanDusun fluently.


Wednesday, May 18, 2011


1. Chicken Rice Juara

Yesterday was a testing day of my temper as well as a very challenging time of my life with occurrence that need some thinking and poise to passed that phase challenging occurrence.

I decided not to attend a wedding reception after reception during the weekend to attend to some important matter. After waiting for nearly two hours after the promised time and without receiving any call, I decided that any call later will definitely cancelled it. It was around 2.00 pm that I felt my stomach need to fill up and decided to look for a very fast food outlet and decided to have Chicken rice at the Chicken rice Juara cafe at Donggongon Township.

It was a self service outlet and I ordered fried chicken rice with Lemon ice tea for my drink and was told to have my seat and pay later. I was a bit angry of the failed appointment and it boiled down to my temper at that point of time but still manage to control it. I was waiting for my food and did not mind for that long wait as I thought that they were busy at that time. As I was waiting for my food, a couple entered and ordered and get their food right away. They were seated right in front of me and I was aghast with it as I was there waiting for a long time. I stood and left the outlet without so much fuss. If I did not control my temper, I should have shouted at the person who took my order and let them say sorry to me.

The problem with a cafe manned by the local people (Bumiputra) is their poor service. That is why people will look for a Chinese restaurant instead. Who will want to visit a local restaurant if the service stinks.

You are not a Champion Chicken Rice Cafe.

2. Devil verses Pray Over

I was watching a Korean Drama when I was called by my niece that her mother was having mental breakdown and asked me to come to their house. She was upstairs of the house and asked her of her problem. She said that my late father was calling her and she wanted to be with him. My sister’s house is very near to a cemetery. She was trying to leave the house but we managed to block her path. I decided to bring her home after her children asked me to do so and manage to persuade her to enter the car with both her children on her side.

She still wanted to leave the house and my old aged mother was blurred of what was going on but I tried to tell her that her daughter was not feeling well. I called my elder sister and explained to her and I need them to performed with us all for a pray over. It was almost 10.00 PM and she would be there after taking her bath.
My brother in-law and elder sister started the pray over with me still trying to lit candle used during Easter vigil when my sick sister shouted;

Sister : You want to burn me? Going away .... You burnt me.... going away.

We supported by placing our hands on the back of my elder sister and brother in-law and pray with them and at the same time my brother in-law had sprinkled holy water to her. We prayed until she slept and later we pray the rosary. Praise the lord.

It was midnight when my niece tried to wake her up to take some food but decline but she was surprised that she was at home and slept again. My nephew went home after finding their mother normal again for their bath and one of them came back later.

It was an eerie experience for me to experience such thing and indeed I was somewhat able to control the situation without showing fear of whatever we encountered. It is the faith to the almighty that we were able fight off whatever the devil intends to do with my sister.

Matthew 7:7 "Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.

Psalm 9:10 Those who know your name will trust in you, for you, LORD, have never forsaken those who seek you.

Thursday, May 12, 2011


I read this interesting stories and would like to share especially those who are married.

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory
answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of
release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several Weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bed room to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote,

I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank ,blah..blah..blah.

These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage.

Wednesday, May 11, 2011


Yesterday my office computer suddenly blackout and I was furious as my monthly report was all ready to be send as it was already late. I called the unit concern to fix my computer and at the same time brief them the symptom of the problem. They suspected a hardware problem and they will forward my complaint to our computer vendor for their further action.

Our company vendor from Kuala Lumpur called me and briefs her about the problems and symptoms. As I was driving home the company representative from Singapore called me about the same thing and I told him to call me tomorrow as I was not in the office.

It was before 9.00 am that he called me and once again asked about the symptoms of which there was a red alarm and a five beeping sound followed by a short interval and start again. He told me to open up the PC and remove and re-insert back the RAM card and power up the computer. After power up the computer it booted perfectly and running again. The representative advice me to reboot the computer again before going back to confirm it is working without problem.

If it was a personal computer and you are someone that only knows how to use the computer just like me, you would find your way to the computer service shop for assistance and would be paying quite a sum for their services.

Next time you find your computer having the same symptoms, just remove the RAM card and re-insert and hopefully it will boot-up again.


I was relaxing at home during the weekend and at the same time surfing the internet when I received one SMS from a relative asking where to buy cake at that particular area as he was asked to get one for his grandmother. Usually it is done by the ladies to buy it as they are more ‘qualified’ to buy the best cakes. The cake was for the Mother’s day gathering at their grandmother’s residence. Since he doesn’t have a car so I volunteered to accompanied him for purchasing the cake but he reminded me that his birthday falls on that day also.

Before fetching him, I bought a cake to surprise him for his birthday but just leave it plain without birthday wording written on it. I asked the shop assistant to give me two prepared wording that you just stick on the cake, one with mother’s day and another Happy Birthday’s as I thought he would share the cake with the mothers.

He insisted to have the happy birthday wording inscribe on the cake after I gave him the cake. He bought a smaller cake for the mothers instead.
It was a day after mother’s day when I called him and he thanks me for the chocolate cake.

Relative : Grandma gets a big Cake for Mother’s day.

Me: Give chance to your Grandma to enjoy getting big cake as time is not on her side. You have a lot of time to get all the big cakes as you’re still young.

Relative : He he it’s true.

Moral of the story : Be satisfied of what you have attained and let others enjoy especially the elders.

Thursday, April 07, 2011


One of my responsibilities is to compile all monthly reports and prepare performance in our department. To be able to finish it before the target date, I need the report from various sections within our department and most of the time I have to remind them to send it on time. One particular staff missed sending one report and called her to send it but she insisted that she had sent it. As I don’t want to argue with her, I copied and paste the format on my email as well as the file attachment thinking that she will make the report on the file attachment. I explained in my email that should there be no report just makes remark as NIL. To my horror and amusement, she edited my email and just wrote NIL.

Staff: Boss, I already edited as below. Thank You.

I just smile to myself as how this young staff simply responded by editing my email as her report. I filled up the report myself and relayed what I encountered to my colleague and sure did he have a good laugh. I did have a good laugh too.


Every day I drive through a road leading to a secondary School (St Francis Secondary School Kota Kinabalu) and every time there was a traffic jam during the peak hour of the school opening in the morning. What causes the traffic jam was the attitude of the parents of the student who drop their children right in front of the school gate. The time I spent during the jam somehow brought me to a realisation of overindulging of the children on the part of the parent. If they can help it, they will drive through their children to the classroom. I noticed that there was a long stretch of dropping bay less than thirty metre to the school main entrance but not used to drop the children. Pampering your children will only cause them to become what you do not want: brats. Let them walk the short distance will not in any way burden them.

When children are spoiled they come to expect it. They think that everyone in the world was put there to cater to their needs. That is not the right attitude. Children need to learn that the world will not cater to their needs. If they want things, they have to work for them. If they are spoiled, those expectations will cripple them for life because others will not appreciate dealing with a spoiled someone that thinks the world revolves around them.

Think about it parents, think of other road users who suffered by your action.

Wednesday, April 06, 2011


I was able to cut down my time on watching Korean Drama and sometime it will take me about a week or more to finish a story. Time was not on me actually. My actual aim was to review the most interesting film that I watched but changed it to the method of purchasing and how to purchase the most popular film in the market.

Every time we went out for lunch, we will look for a restaurant which is nearer and with ample parking space. If we find out that the food is to our liking, we will visit it often and make sure you engage the proprietor of the restaurant in small talk. Once you’re comfortable with them, make a joke once in a while though you may not have the privilege of free meal but you tend to have a good service from them and maybe the first to taste their latest menu. It is the same trick that I used when purchasing DVD at some DVD outlet at Megalong and in no time you will have no problem in getting the latest films (Korean) and apart from that I could asked for a replacement of the film if I found it not to my liking. I never failed in that area but make sure you buy their DVD honestly and at the same time bargain with them if they forcefully recommended a certain film but ‘watch first and pay later’ agreement. Make sure you acquire the trust from them first by honestly paying it when you found it to be a good film. Honestly, I did return back few films that I don’t like but make sure to exchange with another film and not refunded.

Presently I am watching a Korean film which was forcefully recommended to me with the ‘watch first pay later’ agreement (3 cds). I just started on the 2nd CD and I found it to be a very interesting Korean drama where a government agency was trying to protect a nuclear reactor pursued by a dangerous group called Athena where they killed the developer of the Nuclear reactor. It may need few more days to finish the film and until that I don’t have more to review.

You can try my method but it may be successful sometime but not all the time, it happen to some people but not to all people. Good luck.

Friday, April 01, 2011


What do you do when an unmarried lady in your office aggressively complaining and raising her voice without any regards to her office mate?

She has a very big attitude problem and her behaviour annoys us at times. She will at time shocked us by shouting, banging the phone and banging her table to show her displeasure to someone whose performance are not to her expectation. Ever since we moved to this office I cannot tolerate her problematic behaviour giving me so much tension. She is from different unit of our department but shared the office with us.

There was a time where after receiving complaint from the meeting room (our office near meeting room) to tone down but once you have bad mentality and oblivious disregard of other human being proved meaningless. She would not change.

I tried to find out what causes her attitude problem by looking for causes in the internet and I could only come up with variables that cause it.

- Have a chemical imbalance in the body structure

- Hormones are shifted, lost and released at certain points in time

- Menstrual periods

- Naturally having mental complex attitude

She came to my table as I was writing asking for favour and I just acknowledge her by bowing my head afraid that she would see what I was writing.

‘I am stressed’ she said as she left my table.

Thursday, March 31, 2011


Last January we manage to organise anniversary of the death of our grandmother after a long layoff. We used to organise it after few years of her death but stopped when the elders thought that we need break a year or two. Once it stopped, it was forgotten without somebody trying to revive it again.

I was summon to attend a family meeting and was informed that it was about the anniversary of the death of my grandmother. We tried to involve everybody but time was not our side then as the date of the intended gathering was two weeks away. We managed to call for the meeting twice only after another one was called off due to some misunderstanding of the intended date.

The problem of having the elders in a meeting was their diversion of the discussion into something that was not in any way following the prepared agenda. They would talk about how hard life when they were growing up and bla ..bla ..bla.. Many a time would we tell them to concentrate on the agenda but sometimes we were reprimanded as they were trying to connect the anniversary and the life of our grandmother. I concurred with them of how important our grandmother but what we were trying to do at the time was organising the event smoothly and not to waste anymore time.

Although we may be having the same grandmother, it does not mean that we are very close amongst our cousins due to marriage. They married and follow their husband or wife and lived in another place. They visited their siblings with their small children to the place of his/her birthplace or parents house but once they are bugged down to look after her/his new family their visit become rare and it become worst if their parent passed away and the family house demolish. Their children will not be very close to their parent’s sibling’s children. It goes the same to our family also as some of us do not know our entire cousin children and vice versa.

It is heartening and good for the family to have the gathering as it was an eye opener for us that the family remain intake as shown by the eagerness of the younger generation to get involve and acquainted with their unknown family tree. It should be best sum up that the availability of networking such as email, Facebook or Twitter proved that whenever you are, you’re always get updated with what is going on to your families. We did make use of facebook to get most of the event known to them.

Next on our agenda is the gathering of all the children of our grandfather but for now I will write about it on my next posting.

Wednesday, March 30, 2011


I am writing and at the same time listening to SuriaFM where Dj Othoe was talking to the call in listener in English and damn you it really humorous and I nearly choke while drinking. Anyway, what I’m going to share with you readers was my surprise and respond when some of my blog readers approached me and asked me about something that I had posted.

Lady : What Korean Drama are you watching now?

I am the type of person that will not indulge of what I do or watch to anybody and it sure was very surprising indeed. I had forgotten my posting about how I come about of watching Korean drama and when someone asked you about it then you wondered how she knew it.


Erm ... I watched a couple of interesting Korean drama and sure do keep me watching it until the wee hours but I need to cut it down soon. By the way, how did you know that I watched Korean drama?

Lady: I read your blog!

I received a number of comments and most of it I called ‘SPAM’ but I have to filter it before posting on the comment section as most of it like ‘Advertisement only’. One interesting comments was asking me why no update on my blog. I did blogged before why I seldom update my blog and they have to look for it and read.

I had posted different kind of topic but lately I tend to write about anything that I experienced, heard or seen in everyday life that will give me an idea of what I should write and share. One of it was on facebook where ‘someone’ kidnapped the posting. As I was reading through my friend’s posting on FB, I come upon a very familiar phrase ‘but of course it gave credit to that blogger’ and I knew that some friends are reading my blog too.

Lately, we did celebrate our grandma anniversary last January and it was a blast where 80% of the family clan attended. It was heartening that the younger set of the younger generation were all for it and want to get involve and interact with all the family clans. I will write a little about it but more on the grandfather side where a group of the family was created on Facebook. To those who approached and commented about my blog sure will know that I blogged about you this time and thanking you for your time.

Friday, January 21, 2011


My bathroom water pipe was leaking the night before and since it was already late, I just left it like that. It was about 5.30 am after my shower that I decided to fix it by tightening the screw. As I was doing the tightening, it broke at the connection which forced me to switch off the main pipe stopper. Since I don’t want to be late for work, I inform my nephew to ask his father’s help to look for a plumber.

It was before lunch time, I was informed that a plumber was repairing the broken pipe and I went home to see what need to be done. I informed the plumber of what to be replaced and discussed about his labour and materials costs. I gave him RM100 as for materials and labour service which I think was reasonable at that time.

I was home in the evening and checked the work done but was disappointed that it was a shoddy work where a pipe stopper was not installed and the piping was not properly laid. I regretted to pay him that much.

Later my nephew asks me whether I was satisfied with the work done.

Butizaon: Emergency like this we cannot complain much.

Moral of the story : Be satisfied of what you get during emergency situation.

Wednesday, January 12, 2011


When a particular pastor of which I really concentrate when he gave his sermon last Saturday always amazes me with his blunt views whether about our religious obligation or about any general topic. He would start his sermon by concentrating on the readings of the gospel accentuated with humorous phrases as well as hard hitting words to those people who seldom pray.

Pastor :

I am not an Angel you know, I looked at beautiful girls too. I know most of you especially married guys like to see beautiful ladies but I will remove my spectacle so that my vision is blurring.

Monday, January 10, 2011


Last Saturday I was in a salon with my barber for my hair cut. I was with other beauty salon for many years but decided to change with my present salon due to its fast service. I was having a good time reading a newspaper and at the same time having my hair cut when a middle-aged woman enter the salon and announced loudly to the whole world why she was there.

Woman : I need facial treatment because I am attending a wedding function later in the day.

Hair stylist : Ooh (she was attending with another customer).

The woman repeat it again when another hair stylist asked her what facial treatment she need.

I read a passage that I want to share with you all why such behaviour of needing attention in what the woman did.

‘The emotionally immature person, however, has low levels of self-esteem and self-confidence and consequently feels insecure; to counter these feelings of insecurity they will spend a large proportion of their lives creating situations in which they become the centre of attention. It may be that the need for attention is inversely proportional to emotional maturity, therefore anyone indulging in attention-seeking behaviours is telling you how emotionally immature they are.’

Later, I saw the woman having her eye-brow plucked.

Friday, January 07, 2011


It was few years back that I watched a Korean Drama titled Winter Sonata through our local TV station and the last one was on VCD, Full House.

Every time I called my sister in-law, she always talk about Korean Drama on the cable channel which I was unaware of. Later I looked for Korean dramas on the net when I was online and took note of the most popular dramas reviews for my visit to the video shop.

A very good and convincing salesgirl was able to convinced me to buy a couple of good Korean drama and damn I was hooked with the first film which was the ‘Goong’ followed by several drama which proved to be ‘addictive’ so to speak. Previously when I watched a film, I felt sleepy but this Korean drama proved otherwise. Imagine me still watching it almost 3.00 o’clock in the morning.

Since I came back to work after my long leave, I was able to cut down the hours of watching the drama and eventually shall stop for the time being until my next annual leave. I don’t mind to look for the film if any readers here recommend me some of the interesting Korean drama or share their views or reviews of the drama that they had watched.

Still prefer Korean drama to Japanese drama ....

HELLO 2011

Almost a year ago I was actively posting my articles in this blog but stopped in February 2010 without any valid reason. I blame it on the many networking available which is the choice of everybody now. Many of the active bloggers seem to be ‘gulung tikar’ (stopped blogging).

I was browsing through when I decided to look at all my posting before and decided to continue posting again though not as active before but we’ll see as time goes by.

My first posting should be about my activities during my year end leave (December 2010).

Even though I was inactive for a couple of months but it amazed me that I still manage to get visit from net surfers and it feel good. So guys welcome back ...